Monday, March 15, 2010

A girl's gotta try

Recently, I've taken an interest in the writings of a few parents who have recognized that their children might be transgender. Many a tear has been shed while reading of the experiences these young children are going through as well as the continuing love and support provided by their parents.

My keyboard has become accustomed to the random showers of tears that seem to come for various reasons including my own loss of girlhood growing up and of course, reading about the love and care being shown also twists the knife in my wound when it comes to my own parents' way of dealing with me in the exact opposite way: ostracization.

I have sent both of them links to both father's and mother's blogs but it's doubtful they even gave either link a single click but I don't really know. What I do know is that all of the blogs I have found usually involve younger children up through the teenage years.

My question is: Where are all the parents who are dealing with (or have dealt with) their son or daughter coming out as a transgender individual later in life? We know it happens all of the time, in fact, it's much more common, statistically speaking. Do these parents just not blog? Is it a generational thing?

Not only would I like to send such a link to both of my parents but I would also like to review such blogs myself to get a better idea of what they might be feeling underneath all of the excuses provided by their conservative beliefs.

Don't get me wrong, I think it's great that there are parents out there today willing to support their child in such an amazingly difficult transition. I'm just curious to know the differences and similarities in how parents of fully grown men and women who transition are feeling too.

I think it's quite easy for my parents to not associate anything having to do with transgender children with their first born son because "he just wasn't like that". I'll admit that I hid it well but they still forget little details like how much I loved The Little Mermaid despite everyone making fun of me for it or how much I reached out to girls. And I don't just mean one girl at school, I mean girls at school, girls at church, even girls that were best friends' sisters.

In conclusion, does anybody know of any such blogs, resources, or videos out there? I realize that even assuming my parents would even read or watch them, it wouldn't necessarily mean they would suddenly want to support and love me again.

But a girl's gotta try. =)


Jessica De Leon said...

Haven't come across one yet but I would definitely find it a good read.

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