Friday, April 8, 2011

Does failing in transition = speaking out?

I came across an article today regarding a woman who claims to have transitioned Female-to-Male for a time in her life and then "changed back" after she met God. She is now testifying against a bill that is trying to be pushed through California congress that would simply allow for children to learn the truth of homosexuality and transexuality in school.

I almost wanted to vomit when I read about her testimony. Don't get me wrong, I don't judge her for her lifestyle. She claims to have felt like a boy for most of her life but then "changed back" and is the happiest she's ever been. Well that's really great for her....some people are just not meant to transition. She is most certainly not alone as there have been others who have tried to transition and failed or just found it wrong for them. What revolts me so much is that she feels the need to judge others and ignore the fact that others around her who do feel deeply transsexual are the happiest they've ever been in their successful transitioned lives.

I of course speak from experience. Yes I've had many trials and it was not easy to make such a change in my life but I am truly happy at who I've been able to become. But just because I was successful in my own transition, it does not mean that I should speak out against those who have felt it wasn't right for them.

I was raised in a very one-sided world and since I transitioned, I have come across so many different kinds of people, it's amazing. Some of them I can understand what they're going through and others I simply cannot. But one thing I continue to remind myself now is the phrase: "Everyone's different.".

What does that mean? It means none of us our the same. None of us feel the same about our bodies, our identities, our lives. Sure there may be similarities but it all comes down to the fact that we are all unique human beings. Because of that, we are always going to disagree or be unable to understand something about others around us.....because we are not in their body or their life.

Trying to see from someone else's shoes is sometimes impossible but acknowledging that we are all different tends to open our minds more to the possibility that their point of view could be just as valid.


Lucy Melford said...

I'm often struck by how deeply anf fiercely a person can hold cherished beliefs. And the beliefs of the convert, or the errant sinner welcomed back into the fold, can be among the most steadfast - or blind, depending on your point of view.

Perhaps it's fundamental in the human experience to embrace things that offer certainty and clarity, even if there are flaws found in them when reason is applied. People don't generally like the idea that nothing is impossible, that difference is normal, and that there are really no absolute rules. They like fixed values, and principles to cling to, like rocks in a foaming river.

I don't sneer at such people, but they worry me, and I'm sorry that they have to live such a limited life. And I do get annoyed when they try to impose their narrow views on me.

I wonder what God said to her? You'd have thought He could read her heart without any conversation being necessary, and wouldn't have minded what she was, so long as she lived a good and useful life. I rather fear that she listened to someone else.


OffendingNerd said...

Link for article?

Kev said...

This is very sad. If I was ever to detransition I would never ever change my opinion about transition being the right thing for some people.
Even if I had found it wasn't right for me. But this story shows how hard it is to transition, and how much people need to be accepted. Some need it so much that they just swim with the big conservative stream.
So much easier to be accepted by just being a dull, bigot person. Just go to church and be against gay people, and you are accepted by much more people than if you would stand up and fight for being trans/gay.

So I undertsand in a way that she chose that way, but I think it's a shame, anyway. It's sad. I hope she can be happy as a woman, and she won't wake up some day being 80 and regretting it badly.

It remind my of this ex-gay movement. A sad thing.

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