Friday, March 31, 2017

Transgender Day of Visibility

Today is Transgender Day of Visibility. Different from Transgender Day of Remembrance which honors the dead transgender individuals each year, it's a day to both celebrate those of us who are still alive, shedding light on the lives we lead as well as bring to light the issues we face.

The population of transgender people has nearly doubled in the last decade and yet I actually assume it's less about the fact that we are becoming more numerous and more that we are becoming more brave; able to stand up and say "Yes, I am transgender." or "No, I can no longer live a lie."

With that in mind, I wanted to speak a the cisgender audience. I want you to imagine yourself in your everyday lives, going about your own business. You probably encounter some of us without ever knowing it. So I wrote this poem.


 Everyday Visibility


You pass him as you walk down the street
in line to get coffee, she orders a mocha breve.
They hold the hand railing in front of you on the subway
she sits near the front of the bus next to a stranger.
He's leading that meeting you had at work
she's in the stall next to you in the ladies' room.

You may not see us but we are there
and we kind of always have been
whether we're 'out and proud'
or blending in after years of changes
or even trying to live with 
the unborn secret in our hearts.

She honks her horn in the traffic jam
In the movie theater, they're sitting 3 rows behind you
She's having lunch in the same restaurant as you
You leave and he wipes down your table.

He's your cousin's husband
or your best friend's brother
She's your coworker's wife
or your everyday barista.

We are all over the map both figuratively and literally
no two of us are alike in beliefs or personality
you can box us up in a package called 'transgender'
and try to make it sound scary or weird
but the reality is we are just people like you
leading everyday lives.

We're not asking for much, just unalienable Rights
like everyone else, we want to live free
if you give us a chance, put yourselves in our shoes
we are really not all that different from you
so maybe reach out and try to understand
chances are, you already know one of us.


Monday, March 27, 2017

FAQ is updated!

Ok I finally updated the FAQ on my page since it was a few years old. Some important things there including the fact that I had FFS last year. ;) Check it out

Thursday, March 23, 2017

The blog is back! Kinda...

Wow my last post was 2013. That's 4 years ago. A lot's happened in that time.

- My trans adopted mom died in October 2013; natural causes
- I got engaged in December 2013 to my boyfriend then of 2 years.
- I had hairline transplants (FUT) in Jan 2014
- I got married in August of 2015 (5 years after my divorce with my ex-wife)
- I had FFS in November of 2016

And well let's just say I've been busy. Work and new hobbies and a new life has been great! I think about trans stuff sometimes but not like I used to.

"So Debra, why are you back?"

Well I'm not....not really. But among the great parts of my life, I've realized that I still love to write. I've started writing some short stories and well they have some trans-related themes so I don't really want to release them under my legal name but a pen-name.

I've missed blogging and frankly, the price for trying to live a 'normal' life is not talking about trans stuff with anyone.....and that can get kind of frustrating when you see our rights being taken away left and right.

So here I am. I may blog a bit, I may link to new stories (if I ever get published hah!) or just keep you all appraised to my adventures. ;)

Oh and the VLOGS have been removed. Trying not to put my face out there ;)

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